Sister Fighting

I feel bombarded lately by the neon reminders – as if to wake me back up — that a convoluted fight continues for women. Specific reminders, for me at least, have been within my own area of sports and fitness. The fact that the perception of female athletes is still so skewed makes my heart…

Moving Home

Most week days, at twelve twenty-five, I clump down the wooden stairs from my office to the gym floors where there is a big, main room for classes and the smaller Tall Room. Lunchtime is my workout time. The majority of the week, I play with other coaches and members in the midday class in…

Ancient Lessons in Coupledom

I love the story about how Julio and I met. It’s romantic and destined, but if I’m going to tell a story about what keeps a long-term marriage thriving, it would be the one about how my in-laws’ 30+ year marriage almost came to an end. Their experience, and our experience because of it sum…

Twenty Years Before

Maya was born at a naval hospital on a Thursday, my favorite day of the week. At the beginning of labor, when the regular contractions started, I envisioned — without any predetermination or forethought — the ocean’s tide coming in and as the contraction faded, the tide shrank back to the sea. The tide simply…

Wrangling Tornadoes

Maya leaves for college on Thursday. And I’m getting sentimental. I know what I’m feeling has been felt since the first kid left a cave, but I thought I’d share an essay I wrote almost 11 years ago when Maya was 11 and Mina was 6. It’s a nod to those times when they were…

Interview for VegetarianBodybuilding.com

I had the honor of being interviewed for VegetarianBodybuilding.com. I got the opportunity to answer questions that meant something to me, especially one regarding feminism and bikini bodybuilding. You can check out the full interview HERE. Here’s one of the questions/answers: Q: What unpopular opinions do you hold? “Currently, I’m exploring the contrast of how my…

The Same Kits Project My youngest daughter, Mina, and I, in 2014, did a project we called the Same Kits Project. We assembled kits of feminine hygiene products for homeless women. The idea was inspired by a group of students out of the University of Georgia who did the same. It’s an amazing idea that,…

Why Vegan?

When I was 13, in 1980, I had my last meal of red meat: a Carl’s Jr. bacon cheese burger. It wasn’t very appetizing, and it certainly wasn’t an emotional farewell. It was more like: good, I don’t have to eat that crap again despite what normal convention was around me. At that age, I…

First Bikini Competition Take Aways

First Bikini Competition Take Aways Standing backstage in a cramped, starkly-lit dressing room lined with warped mirrors, I stared at the other women. There was so much waiting time, I couldn’t fight the urge to take a hard look at everyone. We were all deeply, sadly orange, nervous, and not interacting. The room smelled of…